Parent's Colors!

Understanding more about your
personality type as a parent will help
you change your child's behavior and
the discipline problems in your
home virtually overnight.

Parents, let's discover YOUR colors, first.

Step 1: Determine your Interaction Style...

First of all, put aside all thoughts of being outgoing or shy. Then click on and read the descriptions found on the "Extrovert" or "Introvert" tabs. Think about which one seems most like you most of the time. You will likely find yourself somewhere in between the two descriptions, however, one or the other will be your preferred interaction style.

  • Extrovert
  • Introvert

Extrovert Parents

I often say what I think out loud. I am re-energized when I am with others.
Too much "quiet" time or time alone is stressful. I am comfortable meeting
new people. I can act reserved, but it wears me out.

Introvert Parents

I often keep my thoughts to myself. I need time alone to recharge. Too much
time with large, noisy groups is stressful. I enjoy my own space. I can be outgoing and talkative, but it makes me tired and I feel drained afterward.

Interaction Style goes way beyond SHY or OUTGOING.

EXTROVERTS are people who process information out loud. They tend to talk easily with others. They need lots of interaction with friends and family to replenish their energy stores. Extroverted parents may find themselves lecturing their children and teens, or asking tons of questions, especially when they think their children are ignoring them. Extroverted parents are stressed out by overly quiet children and teens.

INTROVERTS are people who process information internally. They seem to think a lot, are not overly talkative, and tend to be reserved about sharing their feelings. They often need time alone to replenish their energy stores. Introverted parents may appear withdrawn or aloof from the activities and emotions of their children and teens. However, this isn't true. They are usually very clued in to their child's lives, but are more reserved with their interactions. When children or teens ask their introverted parents a question, often it appears that the introverted parent is ignoring them. Again, this is not the case... the introverted parent is just processing their request. Introverted parents are stressed out by overly talkative children and teens.

Step 2: Discover your natural first Color...

First, put aside any ideas you have about being a certain type. This happens most often if you have been exposed to some of this at work. Well, that was work, this is all about your home life. This is about who you are as a parent. Next, read BLUE, GREEN, ORANGE, & GOLD. Which color box seems to describe you the best? This is most likely your natural first color.

  • Blue
  • Green
  • Orange
  • Gold

Blue Parents

Values Relationships, Communication, and Understanding
Biggest Stressor: Conflict

I am intuitive, communicative, and sensitive. I focus on others' needs.
I seek for balance. I enjoy nature, spiritual things, friends, and family.
I say "I feel..." a lot and tend to use "touch" to communicate.

As an Extrovert, I talk easily to people and ask things about them.
I often share my concerns for others.

As an Introvert, I tend to hold back my worries and ideas, but still
seem more talkative than other introverts.

Green Parents

Values Information, Logic, and Learning Experiences
Biggest Stressor: Stupidity

I am a logical thinker who loves to learn. I am usually very calm, cool, and
collected. I am very independent and a problem solver. I have a difficult
time expressing "feelings". I ask lots of "why" questions and say "I think..."

As an Extrovert, I may tell you what I think and may seem to
know it all, but I still hold much to myself.

As an Introvert, I may seem aloof and distant. When I talk you may
think I'm being critical but I'm just seeking information.

Orange Parents

Values Freedom, Rewards, and Boundaries
Biggest Stressor: Restrictions

I am spontaneous and flexible about what I want. I tend to live in the moment.
I am usually decisive, efficient, resilient, and practical. I tend to be a negotiator.
I use a lot of "verbs" when I talk.

As an Extrovert, I seem to be constantly on the move, accomplishing things quickly. At times, I may be easily distracted.

As an Introvert, I conserve my energy, seem to wait, and even
procrastinate, but when it's time to move, I move fast!

Gold Parents

Values Structure, Consistency, and Expectations
Biggest Stressor: Disorder

I am reliable, detail-oriented, and loyal. I am also service-oriented and
a "prepared planner". I need stability, safety, and security.
Being on time is important. I often say "I should..." or "you should..."

As an Extrovert, I may seem opinionated and bossy
but I just want things to go according to plan.

As an Introvert, I have very set opinions, but I usually keep them to myself.
I quietly work behind the scenes to get things to go just right.

 

In the last few minutes, you probably discovered your basic Interaction Style and at least your first natural color. Each of us has a unique set of needs, values, motives, stressors, and stress behaviors based on the combination of either Introvert or Extrovert, and your first, and your second natural color. According to research, there are sixteen type combinations. To learn more about your individual colors and how they effect your parenting style and communication behaviors, check out one of our classes, call for a FREE first-time 20-minute coaching counsultation, or find out more in the "Parenting By Personality: The Everything Guide" book.

Learning more about your colors and your kid's colors will change your life!

Now check out the Kid's COLOR page!